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By Lana Mitchell,

I read a fascinating article today that details the importance of talking to your children about sex, about menstruation and about body parts. You can read the article here: http://bit.ly/XnlD8w. It is a good read and just makes plain sense.

Having two young children of my own, I have had to make my own choices about sex education — deciding what to talk about and when my children are deemed “old enough”. My decision probably won’t sit well with many. I decided to simply tell them the truth of things.

 

 

A penis is a penis. Testicles are testicles. (OMG — I said those dreaded words!)

My boys, from the age of 3, have had a basic understanding of their own male bodies and also of the female anatomy and the differences between the two. We have discussed how babies are conceived and how they grow and are born. Over coming years we will take up these subjects in more detail and get all future questions answered — but to be clear, there is no taboo subject in my household.

Now many, reading this, will wonder what this has to do with this blog and the subject of Scientology. It is rather simple actually.

While I worked in the Sea Org, the subject of sex and sexuality became more and more inhibited. The change in attitude and understanding of sex moved, over the course of 15+ years, to one where the Int Base Sea Org members were sent to ethics and sec checking (FPRD style) for masturbation, were removed from post or RPFed if they kissed someone of the other sex (let alone fondled or got into any sexual activity), and any time spent with your legal spouse engaging in sexual activity (on your own time) was deemed “other fish to fry” and slagged as being somehow an indicator of a low tone level. This was something that pushed from the top down — a campaign David Miscavige has been running for years. Anyone in ethics trouble is accused of being involved in some sexual activity, all of which leads to just more inhibition on a subject that is already heavily charged in today’s society. It has gotten so bad that rumor has it that marriage is now prohibited at the International headquarters of Scientology.

The Sea Org moral code on the subject of sex has walked backwards to the 18th Century. In fact, directly contrary to HCOBs, books and lectures on the importance of communication on any subject, what is happening in the Church of Scientology is another example of Reverse Scientology.

LRH states in HCO PL 11 August 1967 SECOND DYNAMIC RULES:

“It has never been any part of my plans to regulate or attempt to regulate the private lives of individuals.

“Whenever this has occurred, it has not resulted in any improved condition.”

In the same policy letter he goes on to state:

I have no concern about the second dynamic activities of Scientologists save only where they bring suffering to others and so impede our forward progress.

“Therefore: ALL FORMER RULES, REGULATIONS AND POLICIES RELATING TO THE SECOND DYNAMIC ACTIVITIES OF STUDENTS, PRECLEARS, STAFF AND SCIENTOLOGISTS ARE CANCELLED.”  LRH

Heck — how can you be ethical and living across all your dynamics if the second dynamic is heavily inhibited?

In fact — how can mankind as a race continue forward if the second dynamic is prohibited?

Now understand — I am not talking about promiscuity. I am not talking about group orgies. I am just talking about sex, body parts, sexuality, and the conception of children. And the discussion of such.

It is through the second dynamic that mankind’s future is continued, with the creation of future generations. Society already makes a mess of the second dynamic — so let’s not let the Church of Scientology management further add to the mess.

Don’t fall into it. Be willing to talk about the dreaded three letter word, with your kids, with your friends, family and with your partner. It is an important part of your dynamics and thus your life.

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Jim Logan
0 # Jim Logan 2013-02-12 18:34
I thought the three letter forbidden word was “fong”. Oh, that’s four letters.
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Lana M.
0 # Lana M. 2013-02-12 18:35
Typical that the only person that comments on this article is you!
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Kay Proctor
-1 # Kay Proctor 2013-02-12 18:36
Well written Lana and certainly a most valuable viewpoint, IMHO. There are far too many taboo’s to my taste within the church & such heavy suppression. OMG, makes you wanna puke. Your approach is the same as mine. I have always talked to my son and now at age 24, he fully understands that if he gets his “yick” out, then he must be responsible for the consequences, and he heard that from the age of 10 or so.

Today, as a widow, and his only terminal, we still have a 100% honest comm line in this area. Heck he told me he went to strip club for his 23rd birthday and all the details. (Yeah, like I really wanted to know, but I listened, as he felt completely comfortable telling me). I endorse pure candor appropriate for the age of the person. Bravo!
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Betty
0 # Betty 2013-06-23 07:04
Great on communication. But. Is it all about the strip club? That he was able to talk about it? Strippers are aberrated. They operate on minus 6 only. Just to mention one, it makes it easy for man NOT confronting their 2D. The thetan. It degrades woman to an object on both part, the stripper and the watcher. The result is withrowing from the area of WOMAN and further overts and complaints... Can`t you teach him that? What is the next comment about? That it is so good to watch porn without consequences?
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Silvia
0 # Silvia 2013-02-12 18:36
Lana, thank you. To the point write up, very clear and truthfull. DM was probably pushing his “own aberrations and crimes on the 2D” by enforcing these Sec Checks and what not. However, you have now the truth in your hands and, with this alone, the dynamics should fall into communication nicely.
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Mareka
0 # Mareka 2013-02-12 18:37
Bravo for making a taboo subject something that can easily be discussed and questioned in your household by and with your children! They may not notice it now but they will surely benefit from it over time. And kudos for being able to step outside a cult viewpoint and see the difference beetween 2d and out-2d – two words that have become synomous with evil inside the confines of the cult of Scientology. Good on you, Lana Lou. x
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Tara
-1 # Tara 2013-02-12 18:38
Excellent point. Having daughters now 19, 18 and 12, I had to throw out the ridiculous fake mores of the C of $ when I left in 1999. How can our kids even be in real comm if they can’t openly discuss just another part of life and living – sex and the second dynamic? So far so good and best is that they can always openly comm with me for advice and guidance on the subject.
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Lana M.
0 # Lana M. 2013-02-12 18:38
Brilliant Tara! Open comm lines for advice and guidance. Just superb.
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Tim S
+1 # Tim S 2013-02-12 18:49
“A penis is a penis”? What happend to MR. Happy? :>)
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Lana M.
0 # Lana M. 2013-02-12 18:53
Mr Happy found out WHAT he was, and had case change.
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Alaska Ronn
0 # Alaska Ronn 2013-02-12 18:50
“Now understand — I am not talking about promiscuity. I am not talking about group orgies. I am just talking about sex, body parts, sexuality, and the conception of children. And the discussion of such.” Lana

What exactly is promiscuity, and when is a sexual encounter to be deemed promiscuous? Is it any sexual encounter between two unmarried (consenting) adults? Is it a matter of how often? With too many unplanned, random, just met a few hours before? Any one night stand perhaps, even if not often, again consenting adults? It has taken religions far larger than any dictionary to define promiscuity, and yet the word remains ambiguously defined.

Thetans don’t need sex, but they also don’t need food. Therefore thetans may not need to eat or have sex, but, at least from my own experiences, a thetan can and does enjoy both and both can become taboo when overindulged. Perhaps that is the definition, but it certainly isn’t indulging on occasion, married, or not.
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RLR
0 # RLR 2013-02-12 18:55
OMG this gives me a blowdown! (no I said blowdown ) When I was in the SO at AOLA it was a hell for the second dynamic. Then when I went to Flag the same thing. Its used as a way to send you to ethics and then keep you out of session. Given I was a sailor for 5 years I had plenty to chat about. I am so hung up on the subject now its not even funny. Worst reference ever was on Pain and Sex which was regularly slapped in front of me to clear up my MU’s.
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RLR
0 # RLR 2013-02-12 18:57
OMG this gives me a blowdown! (no I said blowdown ) When I was in the SO at AOLA it was a hell for the second dynamic. Then when I went to Flag the same thing. It's used as a way to send you to ethics and then keep you out of session. Given I was a sailor for 5 years I had plenty to chat about. I am so hung up on the subject now its not even funny. Worst reference ever was on Pain and Sex which was regularly slapped in front of me to clear up my MU’s.
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Lana M.
0 # Lana M. 2013-02-12 18:59
The HCOB Pain and Sex has been mis-used and abused for years. Hope you can “free up” on the subject/area a little now. It a major part of your life after all.
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Scott Campbell
+1 # Scott Campbell 2013-02-17 21:06
Ronn,

What I have found to be true in this arena is that when you interweave your spiritual essence with too many other thetans, you are establishing too many anchor points on that Dynamic. When one does this, it makes it more difficult to once again find and re-unite with one’s true “soul-mate” lifetime after lifetime.

If “soul-mates” mutually refrain from promiscuity prior to re-uniting, they find each other again and again, lifetime to lifetime. The indicator is this, trust your own knowingness as to whether you have a long term relationship with the person or not – and if not, do not get involved with them, especially sexually.

Do you see my point on this?
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